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Arranged marriages - beginning or end of love?

In India most marriages are, unlike in the west where people chose their bride or groom on their own, arranged by the parents of the bride and groom. At first their parents usually post a matrimonial insert in a national English newspaper in which they describe their children and how the groom should be like, where he or she is from, what language they speak and so on.After deciding on one of the replies to be the most suitable they arrange a meeting for the two families to meet at dinner. During this encounter the bride and groom are able to talk to each other for the first time and decide if the other person really is an appropriate choice. Only then after their children agree to marry the other their parents set an engagement date, or at least it should be this way. This way of arranging marriages already goes on for years in India and is seen as completely normal. In western regions this way of getting married is very outdated. People go out on dates and get to know each other, fall in love and marry at last. In India it is the other way around. At first they marry and then they fall in love. It is said that there are more divorces in western states than in India. This may be true but people should not forget that in India filing for divorce is still not acceptable in society. So many couples stay together although they are unhappy. But since their parents take care of the situation and make sure to pick a good choice by going into detail when describing the appropriate partner for their child, it is way easier to find somebody in India than in the western states. Furthermore the people searching for a marriage are they clear and specific, even with looks. Some would say that it is superficial, others would say that it helps clearing up any misunderstandings of what qualities the other is searching for. To sum up I would not say that an arranged marriage is the key to finding true love, people need to get up and find it themselves. But it could be a good alternative if the person is completely hopeless. At the end it is your choice you have to live with. From P.W
25.3.15 01:18


arranged marriage

Do arranged marriages really work out ? And is this the right way to spent the rest of your life with a partner you do not know anything about ? arranged marriages are still normal in countrys like india or for example in arabic countrys,generally we could say in people in which people follow their traditions and the old way of thinking . People does not have the chance  to know someone , maybe they does not know the feeling of beeing in love. They does not have any decisions because if you fall in love with somebody go out with somebody everybody talks  bad  behind the back of the families because its not usual that people fall in love first  and  then marry. Just the Parents choose the marriage patner.  My mother also does not my father  before because it was normal that the parents form the side of the groom came and ask the woman side of taking the girl as their daughter in law . After 2 weeks they got married . And i could definitely say  that love cames later.But she also told me that it would be nicer   if  someone know the person well before because its a strange feeling living with someone you does not know anything about . Now their are married since 26 years, but there still examples where it does not work because of the diffrent interests and notions. We can not say if people  which  fall in love before had an longer marrige  but i could say that the feeling is annother because you feel the love and you want the marriage from the heart . And if they divorce themselves they know they choose the person by themselves.






(written by Hana Kohlie )

24.3.15 21:32

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